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Leadership development has long focused on the individual. The intent was to make the leader better. More self-aware. More flexible. More resilient. More loyal. But leadership doesn’t happen in a vacuum. The conditions matter, too. The culture. The policies. The expectations. The relationships. The resources. The power dynamics. The systems. Because I refuse to […]
This month, I paused to strengthen what I’m actually building. Not just the leaders. Not just the organizations. The conditions around them. Because leadership doesn’t happen in a vacuum. I’ve spent years working with people and organizations around leadership, capacity, culture, development, and sustainability. And one thing I know: You can have incredibly capable […]
Leadership doesn’t happen in isolation. People lead within teams. Teams operate within organizations. Organizations exist within communities and systems. And all of it exists within an environment we depend on. So when I work with clients to recognize and dismantle leadership conditioning, I’m doing more than helping an individual become a better leader. We’re […]
Let me be clear that S.O.F.T. Leadership™ is not about becoming a weak, naïve or passive leader. I’m not interested in teaching women how to become more palatable leaders. S.O.F.T. Leadership™ is a methodology for helping high-performing Women of Color recognize and dismantle leadership conditioning so they can exit survival mode and move into […]
Stop letting productivity become your identity. Leadership conditioning has taught so many of us that our value is measured by how much we can produce, provide, and perform. So you become the one who gets things done. The one who figures it out. The one who doesn’t need much help. The one who is […]
What if the version of you you’ve been looking for isn’t someone you have to become? What if she’s someone you need to reclaim? Because somewhere along the way, leadership conditioning may have taught you to become a version of yourself that could survive success. The dependable one. The agreeable one. The one who always […]
Sometimes the reward for being the most capable person in the room is becoming the person everyone expects to carry the room. You finish the project. You get another one. You solve the problem. Now everyone brings you their problems. You demonstrate leadership. Now you’re given more responsibility without more authority. You become indispensable. […]
What happens when the girl who learned to take care of everyone becomes the woman everyone relies on at work? Today is Eldest Daughter Day. And as an eldest daughter myself, I appreciate the observation. I believe eldest daughters deserve their flowers. We are often the responsible ones. The dependable ones. The ones who […]
The hardest part of changing how you lead isn’t knowing you’re exhausted. You already know. You know you’re carrying too much. You know you’re the person everyone comes to. You know your calendar is full of things that technically aren’t your responsibility. You know you’re saying yes when you mean no. You know you’re still […]