Give Yourself Permission to Lead On Your Own Terms



I am a 70’s baby who spent a lot of time playing outdoors. In addition to growing up at a time when culturally children were to be seen and not heard, I played quite a few games that required permission to act – freeze tag, Simon Says, Mother May I. When I went to elementary school, I was required to walk in line to the cafeteria, go with my class to use the restroom at a specific time, and raise my hand before asking or answering a question of the teacher. In junior high school and high school, I was required to take certain classes and had little choice in my course selection. As an undergraduate and graduate student, I chose my major and was able to select the electives that were most closely related to my career goals but I still did not have true autonomy. What about life after graduation?

As a grown adult and social worker in the field, it is time to put away childish games and give yourself permission to lead on your own terms. Self-leadership is the true foundation of successful leadership. You are the leader in your career. You get to release the limiting beliefs and misconceptions placed on you by your social work professors, classmates, internship supervisor, colleagues, or employers. You have the ability to make different choices. You have the power and authority to reject self-sacrifice, self-sabotage and self-doubt. You have the opportunity to become the best version of yourself – both personally and professionally. You also have the opportunity to choose to be your authentic self without separation of your work self and after-work self.

Not sure how to utilize self-discipline and self-selection to achieve self-actualization? Career fulfillment is possible for you and available to you. On My Terms Private Leadership Coaching Program has you covered!

The BE A LADY model utilized in the On My Terms Program follows my Strategic Career Management coaching framework. Strategic Career Management is the lifelong process of investing resources into your career to maintain or increase your value in the workplace, undertake work that is personally satisfying, strive for work/life balance, and achieve financial security. The 3 C’s in the framework are clarity, credibility, and congruency.

  1. Clarity – (Self-knowledge) clearness or lucidity as to perception or understanding; freedom from indistinctness or ambiguity
  2. Credibility – (Self-promotion) the quality of being trusted and believed in
  3. Congruency – (Self-mastery) a state of consistency; the quality or state of agreeing, coinciding, or being congruent

Apply to On My Terms private coaching package to move beyond the societal and self-imposed restrictions.



Nicki Sanders, MSW, supports high-performing women of color in social work leadership in developing careers that feed their hearts, minds, and wallets. As Founder and CEO of Nicki Sanders Leadership Consulting, her mission is simple – to eliminate toxic workplaces by developing skilled, empathetic, and goal-oriented leaders who have the vision, support, and resources to create a culture where business prospers, and employees thrive individually and collectively. Nicki has an extensive background in nonprofit management leading high-functioning, multi-disciplinary teams, volunteer recruitment and retention, and social impact programming. She is an accomplished professor, coach, trainer, and group facilitator who has combined her gift for authentic relationships, Master of Social Work degree, and over 20 years of diverse work experience to create a life and career aligned with her values and purpose. Nicki is a lover of cupcakes, travel, and 80’s hip hop and R&B music.

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