What happens when the girl who learned to take care of everyone becomes the woman everyone relies on at work? Today is Eldest Daughter Day. And as an eldest daughter myself, I appreciate the observation. I believe eldest daughters deserve their flowers. We are often the responsible ones. The dependable ones. The ones who […]
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I LOVE my career. I love the diversity of my work, the people I’ve met along the way, and the fact that I’ve never really been someone who wanted to do just one thing. I also love my current work schedule. As I move through my 50s, I’m finding that my personal and professional goals
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I started a 90-Day Momentum Journey on May 1, 2026. Not because I need to become someone new. Because I am no longer shrinking. For 90 days, I am intentionally committing to visibility, consistency, and personal investment: one video with my face and voice every day, and one intentional ask or application This journey
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In 2014, I began a simple practice that became one of the most consistent rituals in my leadership journey. Each month, I shared three words – a short mantra to guide reflection, intention, and focus. Not long essays. Not complicated frameworks. Just three words. And somehow, that simplicity became powerful. Over time, it created
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Self-love in leadership isn’t a feeling — it’s a practice. And in the context of S.O.F.T. Leadership™, it becomes the foundation for sustainable success, not just temporary relief. Why Self-Love Is a Leadership Competency We’ve spent decades learning that leadership is measured by output — hours logged, results delivered, battles survived. But what if
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Happy New Year! As I’ve pondered my 2026 word of the year, I’ve been thinking a lot about how we lead ourselves before we lead others. Most of us start a new year with a mix of reflection and forward momentum, but I kept coming back to one thought that feels bigger than “goal-setting.”
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For many high-performing Women of Color in leadership, the holiday season is anything but restful. It’s a time of year layered with expectations — at work, in our families, in our communities, and within ourselves. We’re closing out budgets and initiatives, showing up for end-of-year celebrations, holding space for others’ emotions, and often carrying
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I’ve always been a self-reflective person. I journal. I check in with myself. I notice my emotions and patterns. But somewhere in the middle of years of overworking and over-delivering, a simple internal question stopped me: “Nicki… what do you want?” I Didn’t Know I Was Disconnected Until I Tried to Answer That Simple
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Today is the last day of November and I am ending the month slowly…softly…intentionally. Two months ago, I had an idea for big Black Friday offer that would start early, be available on Small Business Saturday, and end of Sunday – but likely be extended through Cyber Monday. I simultaneously decided to rebuild my
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Welcome to September! September Is: Self-Care Awareness Month International Update Your Resume Month Emergency Preparedness Month I’m back from my August travels and ready to join “The Great Lock-In”. Are you locking in? Travel Enhances Leadership! New perspectives Restoration and rejuvenation Ignited curiosity My Travel Mantras: The world is my classroom The world is
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