What happens when the girl who learned to take care of everyone becomes the woman everyone relies on at work? Today is Eldest Daughter Day. And as an eldest daughter myself, I appreciate the observation. I believe eldest daughters deserve their flowers. We are often the responsible ones. The dependable ones. The ones who […]
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The hardest part of changing how you lead isn’t knowing you’re exhausted. You already know. You know you’re carrying too much. You know you’re the person everyone comes to. You know your calendar is full of things that technically aren’t your responsibility. You know you’re saying yes when you mean no. You know you’re still
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I LOVE my career. I love the diversity of my work, the people I’ve met along the way, and the fact that I’ve never really been someone who wanted to do just one thing. I also love my current work schedule. As I move through my 50s, I’m finding that my personal and professional goals
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Women are dying of competence. Not because competence is the problem. Because competence has become a permission slip for everyone else to ask for more. You’ve proved you can handle things. So you get more responsibility. You solved the problems. So you become the person everyone depends on. You maintained compounds under pressure. So
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Did you know August is Professional Speakers Month, Black Business Month, and American Adventures Month? Three very different observances on the surface, but here’s the message they all have in common: Being willing to take up space. To use your voice. To build something of your own. To go somewhere you haven’t been before.
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If it were as simple as “just say no,” more women would. High-performing women are told to just “set better boundaries” and the advice ends there. As if the problem is a lack of confidence. Or poor time management. Or not knowing how to say no. But leadership conditioning changes the equation. When you’ve
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“If I don’t do it, it won’t get done.” For many high-performing Women of Color, this isn’t just a mindset. It’s leadership conditioning. Many of us learned early that we had to be twice as prepared, twice as productive, and twice as dependable just to be seen as equally competent. So we became the ones
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What I know for sure is that by the time many women become managers, directors, or executives, they’ve already been leading for years. Not because anyone gave them the title. Because everyone gave them the responsibility. They were the dependable one. The helper. The peacekeeper. The problem solver. Sound familiar? Somewhere along the way,
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Even when you’re off the clock… you’re not really off. You’re still thinking about what didn’t get done. Fixing things in your head that haven’t even happened yet. And on the outside, it looks like you’re “on top of things.” But inside, it feels like you can never fully exhale. Because there’s always something
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“If I don’t do it, it won’t get done.” Have you ever caught yourself saying that? Not out loud necessarily. Maybe just in your head. As you volunteered for another project. Solved another problem. Stayed late. Checked on everyone else. Picked up what someone else dropped. Handled what no one else seemed willing to
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