One of the things we often hear is that you keep repeating a lesson until you learn it.
I also think that some lessons show up to confirm that you’ve learned them.
- You don’t get angry or frustrated.
- You aren’t rattled or anxious.
- You honor your boundary.
- You recover sooner.
Growth, expansion, and elevation are ongoing.
Trust your journey, because sometimes it’s the little things…like socks!
I learned and implemented the rules of “professionalism” well.
- I had school clothes, church clothes, play clothes and as I entered adulthood, work clothes.
- I entered the workforce when women were still wearing slips and pantyhose.
- I grew up in church when women did not wear pants in the sanctuary.
- I only “dressed down” on “Casual Fridays”, always mindful not to be too casual.
Recently, I realized that I intentionally put on polka dot socks and plaid pants.
I remembered the moment I decided I was tired of wearing white or black casual socks and black, brown, or navy blue trouser socks.
Sometimes, examples of self-love and self- determination aren’t very obvious – even to you.
Sometimes, something as simple as colorful, printed or character socks is an example of both personal and professional growth.
Since I’ve learned to celebrate even my smallest wins…I’m sharing a picture of my socks!
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Nicki Sanders, MSW is the Founder and CEO of Nicki Sanders Leadership Consulting and the creator of the S.O.F.T. Leadership™ framework – a liberation-centered approach to people-first, aligned leadership. With over 20 years of professional experience including nonprofit leadership, organizational development, and higher education, she works passionately with high-performing Women of Color leaders and values-driven organizations to build cultures rooted in wholeness, purpose, and lasting impact. Nicki is a nationally recognized thought leader, professor, coach, and facilitator proving that sustainable success does not require self-sacrifice.
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