Watch Your Mouth: Uplevel Your Self-Talk



“You’re telling a story”

When I was a little girl, that’s what I had to say if someone was telling an untruth. I could not call them a liar or say that they were lying. Lie was a bad word in my home.

I also had to say “be quiet” instead of “shut up” “You better watch your mouth,” was a common warning from adults at that time.

Micromanagers and bully bosses are dangerous. The harm they cause isn’t always easily recognizable but sometimes the impact of working in a toxic workplace is that self-doubt comes to visit. We question ourselves and begin to tell ourselves negative stories about our abilities, intentions, actions, and opportunities. Watch your mouth! Silence the inner critic. Stop lying to yourself – it’s not you, it’s them. Oh, and reject all their lies while you’re at it.

How do you cancel the negative stories playing out in your head and slipping out of your mouth?

  1. Challenge the negative self-talk – Ask yourself if what you’re saying is true, appropriate, and helpful. Don’t speak anything to yourself that you wouldn’t say to a good friend or relative that you love.
  2. Reframe your words – Identify areas where you want to change. Reframe and replace negative words with positive ones.

Today is Day 3 of m My Uplevel Your Self-Talk Career Development Challenge. This quarter 4 challenge is happening from Monday 11/8 through Friday 11/12. My daily career tip videos will be shared on Nicki Sanders Leadership Consulting’s Facebook page – @NickiSandersCEO

If you want to increase your career clarity and capability, registration opens on November 18, 2021, for my November 2021 quarter 4 cohort of the Uplevel Your Position Career Development Program. The program investment is $597.00. There are only 10 spaces available for high-performing women of color in social work and human services leadership!


Nicki Sanders, MSW, CEO, is a Career and Empowerment Strategist who helps high-performing women of color in management go from overworked, underpaid, and unappreciated to energized, well paid, and appreciated. Through Nicki Sanders Leadership Consulting, she also helps businesses recruit, hire, train, and retain great employees. Nicki has an extensive background in developing and managing successful programs and leading high-functioning multi-disciplinary teams. She is an accomplished professor, coach, trainer, and group facilitator who has combined her gift for authentic relationships, Master of Social Work degree, and over 20 years of diverse work experience to create a life she loves. Nicki is a lover of cupcakes, travel, and 80’s hip hop and R&B music.

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