I Had A Long Talk With Myself



December is always a month of reflection for me. I’ve been super busy and driving a lot which leaves me a good bit of time to think. I had a 26-minute ‘my heart to my heart’ conversation with myself this week about my past, present, and future. How do I know that it was 26 minutes long? Because I was using the voice recorder on my cell phone. It was a great chat – not overly critical, no harmful language, no name-calling, no pacifying myself, but a lot of honest accountability, asset inventory, and encouragement. I emailed the voice note to myself just in case I unintentionally delete the original message. Of course, there are things I plan to do differently in the new year, but I feel really good about my skills, experiences, intentions, and possibilities. Evolution is constant and I am embracing it.

I came across this meme on Instagram:

Which door would you choose?

Blue Door: You go back in time and fix all your mistakes

Red Door: 10 mil in hand

What is your choice and why?

I am who I am because of the lessons learned from my mistakes. They’ve already been fixed because I took responsibility for them, utilized them in positive ways, and used them as cautionary tales for those I care about. No need in trying to rewrite the past. I would choose the red door with the intention of taking the money and immediately implementing my current dreams and goals which will result in increasing my impact, influence, and income.



Nicki Sanders, MSW, CEO, is a Career and Empowerment Strategist who helps high-performing women of color in management go from overworked, underpaid, and unappreciated to energized, well paid, and appreciated. Through Nicki Sanders Leadership Consulting, she also helps businesses recruit, hire, train, and retain great employees. Nicki has an extensive background in developing and managing successful programs and leading high-functioning multi-disciplinary teams. She is an accomplished professor, coach, trainer, and group facilitator who has combined her gift for authentic relationships, Master of Social Work degree, and over 20 years of diverse work experience to create a life she loves. Nicki is a lover of cupcakes, travel, and 80’s hip hop and R&B music.

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