As I wrote in my blog post, “I Reject the Notion That I Have to Struggle” when I decide something it’s a done deal – no wavering or second-guessing myself. I also shared in the post that I had a decades-long internal struggle about my desire and right to be wealthy. Let me give you a little more insight into my personal conflict.
As a little girl growing up in Washington, DC:
- I never truly wanted to have a regular 9-5 job, I always wanted to be a farm girl. Farms are expensive to purchase, equip and operate. (When I convinced myself that I needed to get a job I created the exact career that I dreamed about)
- I wanted a big white farmhouse with modern amenities and a huge porch where I could see cows and horses from my bedroom window. (Farm animals are expensive)
- I always said I needed a farm hand because I planned to clean or clean up after my animals. (Animal caretakers need to be paid)
- I wanted to have a ‘Big Red Barn’ on my farm for various community events and services. (Macro social work and entrepreneurship)
- I wanted to build a residential home for teen mothers and start a transitional living program for young, single moms (Operating these programs takes money)
- I used to want to travel to all 50 states in the US in an RV (An RV costs money)
- When I learned about mobile businesses as a teen, I wanted to travel the world and make my income doing things that I love.
- I have wanted to support PBS and the United Negro College Fund annually with a significant contribution for decades (Philanthropy requires money)
- I always wanted a white 7 series BMW (We’re talking a $100,000 car)
My desires said I need to be rich. My socialization told me that I needed to fit in, be practical, be comfortable, and help as many people as I can through my (physical) work because giving money was not enough. My (social work) profession told me that I should be in it for the outcome and not the income. Today, I reject it all!
My dreams are so big that I need to be wealthy to do all the things that God has downloaded in my spirit. I have decided not only that I CAN be wealthy, but that I WILL be wealthy. I want to give from my overflow – struggle is not required.
Success is an inside job. My elevation continues!
Nicki Sanders, MSW, ushers high-performing women of color in mid-level social work and human services leadership through promotion to senior leadership. As Founder and CEO of Nicki Sanders Leadership Consulting, her mission is simple – to eliminate toxic workplaces by developing skilled, empathetic, and goal-oriented leaders who have the vision, support, and resources to create a culture where business prospers, and employees thrive individually and collectively. Nicki has an extensive background in nonprofit management leading high-functioning, multi-disciplinary teams. She is an accomplished professor, coach, trainer, and group facilitator who has combined her gift for authentic relationships, Master of Social Work degree, and over 20 years of diverse work experience to create a life and career aligned with her values and purpose. Nicki is a lover of cupcakes, travel, and 80’s hip hop and R&B music.
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