I Am Open and Receptive



Personal development is as important to me as professional development.

Family, social class, religion, and a handful of other things shaped my view of money – and not in the best way. I used to say that I wanted to be comfortable, or I wanted all my bills paid, but now I know that I was afraid to say that I want to be rich. My social work career success combines macro social work, eco-social work, entrepreneurship, real estate, education, community development, and agriculture. My vision requires wealth, so I am building my wealth muscles. I am unlearning some things and uncovering some habits and limiting beliefs.

I am in a coaching group where we were given the task of spending $32,000 on ourselves. The money couldn’t be given away, spent on bills, or put invested in any account. I had to purchase at least 6 things for myself – no one else.

Now, I have absolutely no problem spending money on travel (which I did on previous days) but spending this amount specifically on myself was a challenge. I tried not to spend a huge amount on travel which took some time.

I am focusing on home and peace and comfort so here is my list:

1) Attic makeover/organization system – $10,000

2) Bedroom closet organization system – $10,000

3) iPhone 13 Mac – $2,000

4) Shopping spree with a personal shopper – $6,200

5) Telfar shopping bag – $300

6) I week farmhouse rental in Chester County, PA – $1,200

7) Gas, food, activities in Chester County, PA – $1,000

8) Farm photo shoot – $1,300

I am always a work in progress. Even though this is a hypothetical scenario, I found it difficult to center myself. I am getting better at prioritizing myself in all aspects of my life, but this activity shows that I have more work to do to increase my capacity and acceptance of wealth and abundance. I’m glad I recognized this and now I can grant myself grace (instead of judging myself) as I advance through my financial elevation process.

I also realized that by trying not to spend on travel I was denying myself and my true desires, just in a different way.

The journey back to me continues!

What would you spend $32,000 on for yourself on a minimum of 6 items in one day?

P.S. Abundance is our birthright!


Nicki Sanders, MSW, ushers high-performing women of color in mid-level social work and human services leadership through promotion to senior leadership. As Founder and CEO of Nicki Sanders Leadership Consulting, her mission is simple – to eliminate toxic workplaces by developing skilled, empathetic, and goal-oriented leaders who have the vision, support, and resources to create a culture where business prospers, and employees thrive individually and collectively. Nicki has an extensive background in nonprofit management leading high-functioning, multi-disciplinary teams. She is an accomplished professor, coach, trainer, and group facilitator who has combined her gift for authentic relationships, Master of Social Work degree, and over 20 years of diverse work experience to create a life and career aligned with her values and purpose. Nicki is a lover of cupcakes, travel, and 80’s hip hop and R&B music.

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