Suffering Not Required



Suffering Not Required #these3words2022

Suffering is not a prerequisite to success.

Suffering is the twin to success.

Suffering is not the only path to success.

I’m not looking for a hard-knock life. In fact, I rebuke suffering – no drama, struggle, chaos, and illness. I personally embrace a life of ease and softness.

I love a good rags-to-riches story. I love celebrating people who have overcome tremendous obstacles to live their best lives. I love honoring people who persevere and achieve their goals despite resources or support. Kudos to everyone who overcame mental, physical, and emotional challenges to succeed. I’m here today to remind you that your story is just as valid and your success is just as worthy if your road was calm, easy, and joyous.

Never mind the teens, we have adults making up poverty and struggle stories for acceptance. Struggle is not mandatory.  You’re not soft or weak because you have a low ACEs score. You and your good life are valuable.

We have a culture where people are now afraid to say that things are good or weren’t always bad for them. The idea that we only appreciate things that we struggled for is a lie. I appreciate ease and flow. The notion that real growth is achieved only through hardship keeps us in bondage – mentally, physically, emotionally, and financially. Your workplace is toxic and your boss is a jerk but you should be grateful because other people are unemployed and the next place may be worse! Umm…no ma’am…if we implement proven career development strategies, you will have a job that feeds your heart, mind, and wallet.

Let’s just all agree to stop it right now. Let’s celebrate people and their success instead of only honoring their tragedy.

REGISTER for Career Activation Strategy Session if you’re ready to move beyond suffering and struggle into empowerment and elevation.


Nicki Sanders, MSW, ushers high-performing women of color in mid-level social work and human services leadership through promotion to senior leadership. As Founder and CEO of Nicki Sanders Leadership Consulting, her mission is simple – to eliminate toxic workplaces by developing skilled, empathetic, and goal-oriented leaders who have the vision, support, and resources to create a culture where business prospers, and employees thrive individually and collectively. Nicki has an extensive background in nonprofit management leading high-functioning, multi-disciplinary teams. She is an accomplished professor, coach, trainer, and group facilitator who has combined her gift for authentic relationships, Master of Social Work degree, and over 20 years of diverse work experience to create a life and career aligned with her values and purpose. Nicki is a lover of cupcakes, travel, and 80’s hip hop and R&B music.

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