A job can be the perfect dream job for someone else and a perfect nightmare for you. That doesn’t mean that there is something wrong with you. It certainly doesn’t mean that you must suffer or endure the toxicity. No job is worth more than your mental or physical health. What makes a workplace […]
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“You will never reach higher ground if you are always pushing others down.” A bully is a person who habitually seeks to harm or intimidate those whom they perceive as vulnerable. Bullies don’t stop being bullies when they graduate from high school. The modern workplace is filled with adult bullies. I loathe bullies –
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I’ve talked to many people with abusive bosses who have been constantly yelled at or called names or even threatened. Unacceptable! No one should be bullied at work or any place else. I loathe bullies. I’m going to be honest with you – that experience is foreign to me. I think my natural presence
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Happy Valentine’s Day! It’s check-in time! Compassion fatigue, also known as second-hand shock, vicarious trauma, and secondary stress reaction is different than burnout. Compassion fatigue describes a type of stress that results from helping or wanting to help those who are traumatized or under significant emotional duress. Professional burnout is a cumulative process marked
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As a high school senior, I “didn’t want to go to an all-girls school”. After experiencing a few important life events and gaining a lot of maturity, I transferred to Trinity College – a women’s liberal arts institution – in 1995. I still remember the sign on my advisor’s wall that read, “Go to
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IT WAS ME! IT WAS ALL ME! When I set a boundary, it’s set. I am very clear about it and don’t waiver. In other words, “no means no”! So, when my boundaries weren’t respected in the workplace, it was me who disrespected them! I began to take more work home. I began to
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The “pull yourself up by your bootstraps” propaganda we’ve been fed for centuries does much more harm than good to our psyche. Motivation is usually not the thing that prevents people from becoming wealthy or achieving world-renown success. We all love a good rags to riches story, but the untruths in our indoctrination need
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My clients are brilliant! These ladies have a strong work ethic, advanced degrees, years of progressive work experience, a loyal professional network, top-notch skills, amazing personalities, and situational lack of confidence. I call it situational lack of confidence because they are confident and bold in so many areas of their lives. When you meet
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Are you a list maker? Are you the shopper that purchases only the groceries on your list or the shopper who is values food spontaneity? When my daughter was little, she would give me a very detailed birthday or Christmas list months before the occasion. She was always ready and had no problems asking
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“Remember Who You Are”! Remember those wise words from Ramonda, former Queen of Wakanda, to her son King T’Challa before his battle in the Black Panther movie? Well, they apply to you too! (#funfact This was also an important directive from Mufasa to Simba in The Lion King.) Remember Who You Are: Stop disqualifying
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